October is Domestic Violence Awareness and Prevention Month
YWCA Greater Cincinnati,
along with the Cincinnati Bengals and TriHealth, are asking Greater Cincinnati
SEE SOMETHING, DO SOMETHING.
1 in 3 women and 1 in 5 men will experience domestic
violence. These are our friends, sisters, brothers, and neighbors. We can all
do something to help prevent domestic violence.
Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior used by one
person to gain and maintain power and control over another person in an
intimate relationship. Warning signs of domestic violence you might see
Someone acting really jealous of their partner, like going through their phone or social media, questioning their whereabouts, accusing them of cheating, or not letting them wear certain clothes.
Someone isolating their partner by not letting
them go places, making them check-in about where they are, telling them they
can’t spend time with certain people, refusing to watch children, to trying to
drive family members and friends away.
Someone emotionally hurting their partner by
putting them down, calling them names, minimizing or denying abuse, trying to
embarrass them in front of other people, or blaming them for the violence.
Someone intimidating their partner by yelling,
cursing, throwing things, or damaging property.
Someone controlling all the money by not letting
their partner work, not letting them spend money, taking their money, putting
them on an allowance, or questioning every purchase.
Someone physically hurting their partner by
pushing, hitting, kicking, pulling hair, grabbing wrists, or choking.
to learn more about abuse warning signs.
CLICK HERE to
learn more about teen dating violence
CLICK HERE to learn more about women of color and domestic violence.
CLICK HERE to learn more about abuse in LGBTQ relationships.
CLICK HERE to learn more about men’s experiences of domestic violence.
Sometimes it can be hard to intervene when you see one of
these warning signs. You might be worried the violence could turn on you, that
you’ll ruin a relationship with a couple you care about, or that you might be
embarrassed if it doesn’t go well when you do intervene. The good news is that
you have lots of options. No matter what makes it hard for you, there’s almost
always something you can try.
You can try being direct by saying things like:
You could also try creating a distraction to prevent
violence from happening or keep the situation from getting worse:
If you don’t want to say something or create a distraction,
you can always delegate by asking someone else to do something:
Ask a friend or family member if they would be willing to say something.
Ask a server, bartender, cashier, or someone
else to do something if you see a warning sign in a public place.
Ask someone nearby, “do you think everything
looks alright there?”
Call security or the police if the situation
You also don’t have to wait for a warning sign to do
something. There are proactive things you can do every day to make it less
likely domestic violence will happen in our community:
Talk with young people in your life about healthy relationships or dating violence.
Ask your faith leader to address domestic
violence during a service.
Post your values about the issue on social
Support victim services by volunteering your time or making a donation.
Wear a purple light button or ribbon to show you
care about domestic violence.
Hang a flyer or poster in your office.
CLICK HERE to learn more about intervening to stop domestic violence.
CLICK HERE to learn more about the 3 D's (direct, distract, and delegate) of bystander intervention.
If anyone you know is experiencing domestic violence, the YWCA
hotline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week by calling:
513-872-9259 in Hamilton County
513-753-7281 in Clermont, Brown, and Adams
CLICK HERE to learn more about services for victims.
View Public Service Announcements featuring our Cincinnati Bengal partners Kevin Huber, Vincent Rey and Dave Lapham.
Special thanks to our community partners: